Archive for April, 2012

Run Man Run – Part 4

Potiphar’s wife was very consistent, verse 10 of Genesis 39 says, “And though she spoke to Joseph day after day.” Sexual temptations are all around, and they are not going away. Joseph was tempted every day until the day he left his cloak inside the house and ran out. Later he was placed into prison due to being falsely accused by Potiphar’s wife for trying to sleep with her. The Bible doesn’t tell us how long Joseph was tempted, but every day Potiphar’s wife made a pass at him and every day Joseph said no. What are you doing to guard your heart? What are you doing to guard your eyes? What type of accountability do you have in place with others?
I had a 20 year addiction to porn and over sexual sins, and because of that I have to live my life differently than others. I have to be very careful to guard my heart. At my house, the direct TV account is in my wife’s name and we have a TV rating lock on our account. In order to watch anything above PG-13 a password has to be entered. Only my wife knows the password. I do not have access to the internet at my house. It is set up on my wife’s computer and a password has to be given to be able to log in. Our Netflix account is password protected. Recently I needed to buy a personal computer to be able to do my work for Refuge. I had to buy a netbook because it didn’t have a CD-ROM driving on it, so I wouldn’t be tempted to buy adult video’s. Then it took my wife and me three hours to lock the internet off of it. I have to be very careful with the type of movies I watch or the type of TV shows I watch. Just the smallest little thing can trigger temptation. At work, I have my computer screens facing out so everyone who walks down the hall can see my screens, and have blocks set up on my computer. I have an accountability partner, and we meet once a week to talk and share. I have others in my life that at any time they can ask me the question, “How is your purity?” I have to take extreme measures to protect myself, and to guard my heart because of my past. I am so thankful for my wife who is willing to do what it takes to protect me. There have been many of times we will be walking in a store and she tell me to look the other way or to close my eyes, because she will see the women that is dressed in a way that could trigger temptation. Setting up guards to protect you doesn’t make you less of a person, it makes you more of a person. You want to get to a place where you don’t have any secrets. My wife knows my whole story, there are others in my life that know my whole story. There’s even another women that God brought into my life to help me with my healing who knows the details of my story. It is very hard to open up and tell someone, but it gets easier every time you share your struggles. Once again I ask you, what are you doing to protect yourself from the temptations of sexual sins that we face every day?

Run Man Run – Part 3

“…and sin against God?” Joseph tells Potiphar’s wife that sleeping with her is a great wickedness and a sin against God. As believers we are called to be holy. Jesus has set us apart, and we are to live our lives as one set apart from the rest of the world. Purity is a perquisite for holiness, (Psalm 24: 3-6) and God’s word is very clear that we need to void sexual sins. “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality…” (1 Thessalonians 4: 3 NIV) “…The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.” (1 Corinthians 6: 13 NIV) “Flee from sexual immorality…” (1 Corinthians 6: 18 NIV) “Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires…” (Colossians 3: 5 NIV) As believers we are to stay away from all sexual sins, they are toxic and will just destroy a person from the inside out. God has called us to be holy. “I am the Lord your God; consecrate yourselves and be holy, because I am holy.” (Leviticus 11: 44 NIV) “Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy to offer your bodies as living sacrifices holy and pleasing to God – this is your spiritual act of worship” (Romans 12: 1 NIV) “Who has saved us and called us to a holy life – not because of anything we have done but because of his own purpose and grace…” (2 Timothy 1:9 NIV) “But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy.” (1 Peter 1: 15-16 NIV) “Since everything will be destroyed in this way, what kind of people ought you to be? You ought to live holy and godly lives.” (2 Peter 3: 11 NIV) The moment we asked Christ to come in our lives, we became holy. We may have not felt like it, I know I sure didn’t, but before God we are holy. When we sin, we are sinning against God, no matter what type of sin it is, and by the power of the Holy Spirit we can live a life that is holy and pleasing to God. One of the ways you know if you are striving for holiness is to ask yourself the question, how much do I hate my sin?

Run Man Run – Part 2

How does Joseph handle this invitation from Potiphar’s wife? He refuses, picking it up in verse 9 of Genesis chapter 39 Joseph is talking and says “…How then can I do this great wickedness….” Adultery during this time was considered a great sin; it is even one of the Ten Commandments God later gives to Moses (Exodus 20: 14) and if one was caught in adultery the punishment was death. Now is adultery or sexual sins worse than any other sin we commit against God? No, sin is sin in God’s eyes. God doesn’t have levels of sins where one is worse than the other, consequences differ between sin, but one sin is not greater than another. All sins, are a great wickedness, because we are sinning against a Holy God. However, churches today place sexual sins in a whole box of its own and make sexual sins the worst of the worst. Another reason why the Church doesn’t want to talk or deal with sexual sins. Yet so many men are losing the battle in the area of their sexual purity. We condemn and look down on those that are struggling sexual especially if they get caught; it’s like they have leprosy. Yet I ask the question again, if this in the number one way the enemy is coming against the church, why is it not being dealt with head on, and I know that there are churches and ministries attacking this area, but for most churches they are being cowards.
The reason sexual sins are so powerful is because of the secret-ness of the sin. Porn can be looked at from anywhere, as long as you can get on the internet. The deeper one gets into sexual sins the more crafty they have to become to guard their secrets and the harder it will become to keep it a secret. Eventually one will get caught, one mistake will be made and the results are deadly. Sexual sins are a great wickedness, the lies that are involved, the money spent, the chemical addiction that is causes. Pornography rapes your mind, the shame and guilt that one deals with is over powering. It destroys lives, it destroys marriages, it destroys families. I heard a man say, “Our sickness is the result of our secrets.” What secrets do you need to let out into the light?
No matter how big of a mess we have made, Jesus wants to clean up the mess. He started by dying on the cross for our sins. No Matter how many times we fall and look at porn, “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1: 9) For the believer, “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” (Romans 8: 1) Remember God’s grace doesn’t give us permission to sin, Romans 6 deals with that issue. I am a broken man, and I thank God for His grace, mercy and love that He pours out every day!

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