Step 4 – Your A-Team

In life we need others to help us, no matter what we struggle with. Proverbs 24:11 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” Men, bottom line, we have to have other men in our lives to help us. Same goes for the ladies, women you need other women in your life to help you. When dealing with any type of struggle we need to have accountability in our lives to help us. “Your A-Team” One of the things we do with Refuge is we encourage our men to put together accountability teams to help them with their struggle. Being accountable to someone is doing life on life with them. I want to share what your accountability team looks like and what your team does.
What the team looks like: Pray and ask God to give you a few men to be a part of your team. I would look at asking some older guys and some guys that are the same age as you. I would start looking at some of your closest guy friends. Your team members need to be men you can trust, are safe, men who love you, and guys you can share things with. When you think of someone you may want to be a part of your team, ask to speak with them and share with them that you are putting together a team of men to help you in your walk of purity. Ask them if they would be willing to be a part of your team and tell them what you want them to help you with. Different members of your team may have different roles. It’s your team, set it up how you need to and how it will best help you. What does your team do? Any member of your team can at any time ask you how you are doing in the area of your sexually purity. You are going to have to tell them to do this. If you sin, you have to confess that sin to someone on your team. Why do this? This keeps one from having secrets, and it goes back to the healing processes. James 5:16 “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” Use your team to your advantage. You want to contact your team before you start to fall into sin. If you are starting to be tempted or you start to see red flags go up, contact your team so they can pray with you. If you cannot get in touch with them, leave them a message. It’s amazing how when one is being tempted to act out, and they reach out to a brother how fast the temptation leaves. Why is that, because you are allowing the Light to come into that dark situation. Your team is a lifelong team, and team members will come and go. Stay in touch with your team and they with you. Most of the time when I’ve had guys reach out to another guy for accountability, the guy they ask to enter into the accountability relationship is looking for the same thing. So now you have a two-way street, you get to help them and they get to help you. We cannot do life by ourselves, we need others and this is how God intend it. We need community and we need men in our lives and women need women in their lives to help us battle through life’s issues. Your accountability team is to be a helpful tool to help you, men to come along side of you and love you and to spur you on.


Love to hear your thoughts....

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: