Archive for June, 2016

My Heart Today


Most of you know my story and how God has redeemed me. Some of you know of my recent struggles with career/ministry/purpose within the last month and a half and even longer than that to be completely honest. This is something I have struggled with for years. Within the last month, God has absolutely broken me again to show me that my focus has been so far off. My purpose in life is to worship Him and Him alone. (Thank you, A.W Tozer, for kicking my tail in with your book The Purpose of Man) With being reminded last week of a dear brother in Argentina that I live in a culture who puts a high value on what success looks like and I have to confess I have allowed our culture to determine what my success looks like. God’s idea of success and what our culture view’s success as is night and day. This past Sunday a friend of mine in his message reminded me again that following Jesus is committing our self’s to go down a narrow path that is wild and crazy were we have to trust that the Lord is going to meet all of our needs. As I have been frantically staring at all the crossroads trying to figure out what in the world I am supposed to do in life God gently turned my head and showed me my purpose. What I looked at was Refuge. To be honest getting Refuge off the ground is hard and I have been measuring the success of Refuge by our culture’s standards. By our culture’s standards and by church culture standards Refuge is a failing ministry. Last night I thought about the ones who God calls to go overseas and works year after year after year with an un-reached people group or as a church planter who is struggling to raise enough support to even stay on the mission field who either see’s no fruit or very little fruit at all. By our culture’s standards and by many church culture standards they’ve had a failing ministry, but not in God’s eyes. In God’s they were successful because they followed their calling and did what the Lord has asked. It is up to God to save and to change lives, not the man on the ground, he or she has to be faithful to the calling. With Refuge by God’s standards, it’s a thriving ministry because it has helped others and is currently helping others. I have to confess I have allowed success of my broken United States culture to effect me in what God has called me to do. What God has called me to do is not easy. I am dealing with a very difficult issue in that I want to bridge the gap between the Church and purity. Because of this I have often doubted my calling or have given up because I am not seeing the success they way I thought I should be seeing it.

The ministry is at a place in order for us to continue to grow we need awareness and support to buy resources.

If you haven’t like our Refuge page please do so:

Please invite your friends to do so.

If you would like to give financial, All gifts go directly to pay for resources we give to those who go through the Refuge discipleship material, for those who want to be trained in the Refuge Leadership material, and for our resources that we give to parents. We also tithe every gift we receive. To give online you can click on the below link:

If you would like to send a gift by check please make the check out to BPC (Blythewood Presbyterian Church) and in the notes section write “Refuge.”

Checks can be sent to:

PO Box 789
Blythewood, SC 29016

Refuge is an independent ministry apart from BPC. BPC provides the financial accountability for Refuge.

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Mama Was Angry!


This past weekend I was doing some fishing and as I was walking down the bank I notice two ducks swimming in the water about 30 yards from me. Then I saw the ducklings right at the bank and then they saw me they took off after mom and dad. Even though I was about 15 yards from these little guys mama thought I was too close and she was in the air in a matter of seconds flying right towards me very upset. She kept her distance by stopping right at the edge of the water carrying on. She was flapping her wings and splashing in the water. I continued down the bank and she followed me still carrying on. She followed me for almost 150 yards quacking, splashing and showing no signs of backing down. Even at 150 yards away from her babies I was still a threat. This got me thinking about how aggressive wild animals are when it comes to their young. They will go to any length to protecting their young. Why, because they understand that ever threat is life or death to their young. No, matter how small of a threat it is. This mama duck was not taking any chances with me as she followed me down the bank of the water.

Parents, it’s not easy talking with our children about hard issues like purity, and sex. It’s hard for me to talk to my son and I have the resource and am helping parents talk with their own children about these hard issues. But parents, let’s not be stupid either. What breaks my heart more than anything is when I see a young child that has their own phone, iPad, device, that has full access to the internet with no type of protection set up. It kills me! It’s like handing your child a grenade. They are going to eventually pull out the pin and it’s going to go boom! Parents we have to see the threats and protect our children from the threats or they are going to die. They are going to get a hold of something that is going to mess them up. Porn will destroy a little mind. Check out my blog on Porn will rape the mind:

Or they are going to meet someone online and it’s not going to turn out good. Parent’s think twice about giving your child a device that has full access to the internet. Become the angry mama and protect your children. Unfortunately, my parents did not protect me and I was introduced to the world I didn’t know existed and I fought purity issues for over 20 yeas and my brain is fried. I will share more of this in my next blog. Protect your children, don’t hand them a grenade.


Protecting Our Children Is More Important Than Seeking Their Approval

This Blog is from Randy Alcorn with Eternal Perspecitve Ministries.  Good Read. Enjoy!

Randy Alcorn / June 24, 2016

I’ve known Christian parents who wish their teenagers wouldn’t watch R-rated movies, wish their daughters wouldn’t wear suggestive swimsuits and prom dresses, and wish their sons wouldn’t put sexually provocative posters on their walls, look at pornography on their phones, or listen to music that glorifies immorality.

We must stop wishing and start acting! God does not give us responsibility without corresponding authority.

“But I don’t want my children to think I don’t trust them.” Trust is important, but it is never unrealistic. Some parents trust their teenagers in situations I wouldn’t trust myself in. You can trust your fourteen-year-old to his level of maturity and life skills. But that doesn’t mean you would trust him to fly the space shuttle or have a smart phone with internet access. Some things he’s not yet ready for.

A young man from another state once met one of my daughters at a sports camp. Because we had one family email address, his emails to my daughter came to me. I sat down with her, recognizing she had done nothing wrong, to tell her I felt she needed to stop receiving emails from him.

She started crying. I felt terrible, because I really did trust her, but based on some of what he wrote, I didn’t trust him. Soon I was crying, too. Finally I squeezed her hand and walked away, feeling like a lousy dad.

Just then I felt my daughter’s hand on my shoulder. I turned and she hugged me, still in tears. Then she whispered words I’ve never forgotten: “Thank you for protecting me, Daddy.”

I wonder how many dads have failed to protect their daughters and sons because they craved their approval. When speaking on sexual purity, I once asked a class of 125 Christian college students, “Looking back, how many of you wish your parents had given you less freedom in your high school years to go where you wanted to and hang out with who you wanted to?” Over 100 hands shot up.

Children will resent and eventually despise parents who just want to be their friends, including dressing and acting like them. Your children already have friends. They need you to be what only you can be—their parent.

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