Is there even a problem when it comes to sex and porn? – Parenting #2

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Here is one of the many stories of parents crying out for help because they don’t know how to help their children dealing with purity struggles. This was posted on XXX Churches website, “We have a 10 year old who I bought an iPod touch for (BIG mistake) and who I caught looking at hardcore porn and about a year ago.  So we had a talk with him and disconnected it from our Wi-Fi network.  We have passcodes on all computers and do not have cable TV.  He recently got back on the internet with the iPod and looked at more.  So we had to get rid of the IPod.  I am horrified about him seeing the things he has seen at such a young age.  Is there anything else I can do to keep him off the porn?”  There are countless stories like this of parents who don’t know how to help their children.  This is one reason we at Refuge decided to put resources in place for parents to be able to bridge this gab with their kids.  The other main reason was I was 11 when I first came across porn and it lead me into a 20 plus year addiction to porn and other sex struggles.  Not only does one have to deal with an addiction but there is research that show physical damage done to ones brain over time do to exposure to porn.  We will get into this issue later on in our series.  Let’s look at some statistics: The average age a child now see pornography is by age 9 if not sooner and they are not purposely seeking it out, 32 billion dollars worldwide is spent on sex trafficking, 9.5 billion dollars in the us is spend on sex trafficking, 97 billion dollars a year is spent on pornography worldwide, and 13.3 billion is spent here in the United States, 89% of pornography is created in the US, 20,000 pornographic movies are made each year, 4 billion dollars a year is spent on pornographic movies in the US, there are approximately 420 million pages of pornography on the internet (4.2 million websites with 260 new sites go online daily), 90% of children ages 8-16 has viewed pornography, 62% of girls are exposed to online porn by the age of 18, 1 in 3 viewers are women (the industry is targeting more and more women), 21% of people seeking help for sexually addictions are females, 40% of sex addicts will lose their spouse, 58% will suffer severe financial losses and 27-40% will lose their jobs or profession, 2.5 million pornographic emails are sent each day.  The list goes on and on. I read an article about a man name Robert Jensen who was doing a documentary on the porn industry and Robert interviewed some guys at one of the largest porn expos in the US and they said this, “Porn teaches us what a women wants sexually.”  When kids come across the extreme hardcore porn films, or across webcams they think this is what sex is.  It’s not, that’s why it’s so important to know and understand the gift of sex God has given us in a marriage relationship, to be able to teach our children.  Is there a problem with porn and sex?  I would say so, and from first hand experience there is an issue.  I still today suffer from the effects of a 20 plus addiction to porn.  In our next blog we are going to start looking at the gift of sex God has given us in the confines of marriage so we can in turn be able to train our children about this special gift God has given us for marriage.

 

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