The Gift of Sex in Marriage – Procreation – Parenting # 5

9d7e03f3b810d5eec6124b191251ad99Today we are looking at procreation in how it fits into the aspect of holiness being the number one key to marriage.  Sex is a gift the Lord has given to us in the confines of marriage.  Sex outside of marriage is wrong and should not be practice because God has designed sex to be between a husband and wife in marriage.  When it comes to sex in marriage the scriptural goal is mutual satisfaction.   1 Corinthians 7: 3-5 says, “The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.  The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband.  In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.  Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourself to prayer.  Then come together again so that satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”  If mutual satisfaction is the scriptural goal for sex in marriage let’s answer the question, “Can we do ____________ when it comes to sex?”  You can fill in the blank with what ever you would like.  Let’s look at some guidelines to answer this question.  The Bible doesn’t give grounds of what is right and wrong between a husband and wife as long as there is mutual satisfaction.  In other words there is not a list that says you can do these things in sex but not this.  If satisfaction is not mutual and one pushes their own agenda for their pleasure, sin has now entered into the picture.  An example of this would be if  a couple is trying something new while having sex and then one spouse says no, I don’t want to do this, that act stops immediately.  If what doesn’t feel comfortable to one spouse and is being pushed by the other spouse for their satisfaction sin has now entered.  Ephesians 4:2 says, “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” We have to be gentle with our spouses.  If satisfaction is taking outside of the oneness of the body sin has entered into the picture.  This means bring anything into our sex life from the world.  Example would be wanting to watch porn together.  This is wrong.  God wants us to enjoy each others bodies and have fun as long as there is mutual satisfaction.  The book, Song of Songs in the Bible is a very detail intimate love song between a husband and wife.  The Bible also gives warning against stepping out marriage to have our sexual desires met.  God’s Word is very clear on adultery. Here are some guidelines when a couple is praying through and talking about their sex life.  Does what we want to do build our marriage up?  Is it loving my spouse? Is it beneficial to our marriage?  Can what we want to do master us outside of marriage? Does what we want to do glorify God and lead to holiness?  God wants us to enjoy sex with our spouses, so seek the Lord and pray and ask Him to help guide your sex life.  Sex is an act of worship when it’s done in marriage and when there is mutual satisfaction this leads to holiness in our marriage.  In our next blog we will be looking at how the out pouring of love is a demonstration of what the Lord is doing in and through us and how this leads to holiness.


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